Some of us are afraid of being alone. We would rather be surrounded by friends and family than go out on our own excursion. Life is more fun with the ones you love, right? Wrong. Well, sometimes, wrong. If you never let yourself do your own thing, then you are vastly limiting the places that you will go.
Do you really want to live a life based on everyone else's terms? I challenge you to step outside of your comfort zone and finally go it alone...literally. Whether it be traveling to a different country or simply going to a coffee shop on your own, the freedom that comes with being independent is well worth it.
It may seem uncomfortable doing some things alone, but it is one of the best things you can do for yourself. It shows character and that you do not have to wait on others to do what you want. Below are the top five reasons to become a confident loner from time to time:
1. Being Independent Shows Self-Confidence.
If you do not constantly need the security blanket of your friends, it shows high self-worth. It, in fact, does not make you look like a loser and anyone who thinks so is a loser, themselves. Ditch em'. Doing your own thing shows TRUE confidence which comes from inside instead of the outside approval from those around you.
Seriously, why are you only doing the things that your friends and family are doing? While it would make sense that you share many of the same interests, you will never grow if you do not occasionally step outside of that group. Sometimes, this means you will have to explore alone. But, why is that such a bad thing?
2. You Live Life On Your Own Terms.
If you always need to be surrounded by friends, there are undoubtedly some things you will never experience. That is not to say that once you get wherever you are going, you cannot make new friends. But, sometimes, what you want will be different than what those immediately around you want. Does that mean you should forget about your interests and just do what they want to do?
No. I call that being a pushover. Way too many of us are pushovers and yet, who even likes a pushover?! Instead, if you want to go to church and none of your friends do, then just go! Let them call you a Holy Roller. Who cares if you are alone? If you want to go to a Meetup event and no one around you is even mildly interested, still go! The right people will admire that you have the tenacity to do what YOU want.
From personal experience, I know that doing things outside of your comfort zone is not always that easy. My personal move to Chicago from a rural area in Indiana was definitely not my family's choice. If you know my parents, they are much more Southern Charm than Chi-Town. I seem to be a weird combination of country and city, myself.
While I admire my parents more than words can even describe, I am old enough to live my own life. If I was doing what was comfortable, I never would have moved somewhere different on my own, but then I would never really know what all is out there. And, believe me, I'm just getting started in that department.
3. You Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone.
Speaking of what all is out there, how are you to know the possibilities if you are unwilling to do things on your own? You always hear people say that you never know what you might like, but this is so true. You really don't! So, why not give it a try?
If you hate it, then just leave. In life, we often think that we are limited to our current circumstances, but that is so far from the truth. If you do not like where you are at right in this moment, then it is going to take some working outside of your comfort zone to get there, but you can change where you end up.
4. You Meet Random People.
If you decide to simply remain in your circle of friends, you will likely meet more of the same people. While they could all be amazing, there are great benefits in getting to know a different perspective. It helps you to view the world in a new light and to have empathy for others' vastly different lives.
Sometimes I laugh, because I hear "city people" talk about "country people" like they are all slow-moving preachers that like to hunt. And then I hear "country people" say "city people" are all rude and overly liberal. These statements are all, of course, stereotypes. Hearing these references is rather entertaining, because we all think our perspective is right! We see one side based on our current world and think that everyone else should come to the same conclusion.
Instead, getting to know different types of people helps in giving a new view of the world. While you may still hold the same opinion as before, at least you can better relate to others or form an opinion based on a more holistic approach.
5. You Learn About Yourself.
In all, we often think that being alone is a bad thing. But, this is so far from the truth. There will be times in your life when you are surrounded by good friends and family and times when you will have to forge your own path.
Do not be afraid to go it alone when you know that is what your heart truly wants. Being alone gives you a new perspective on what you really want. So, be cool enough with yourself to sometimes do your own thing. In a world full of posers, decide to just do you.
Walk like you have three men walking behind you (because you are just that important) and follow your own path on your own terms. There is no reason to be ashamed of doing just that.