Confidence: we all want it, but what really is it? To me, confidence is a mindset rather than a temporary state of mind. True confidence shows through when you put yourself outside of your comfort zone and remain true to yourself i.e. your values, beliefs and dreams.
Contrarily, we often see the character in life that walks around with this borderline arrogant air about him or her. We think,"Wow, I want to be that person. They have it all." Yet, is that what true confidence is?
Is confidence simply knowing that you have it all together and constantly portraying that cool image? Or is confidence an undying faith that it will all work out, because you are living a life that is true to yourself? It may not always be easy, but it is real and organic.
Confidence is the opposite of needing to be the center of attention. It is not demanding. It is does not ask for others’ acceptance. It does not require a certain list to be met in order to be real. It is an understanding that you are true to yourself, whether others like it or not.
I think we all too often confuse the two. We want to have perfection for others to see. But it is all too easy to be confident when you are living a perfect life. Show me the person who is faced with life's greatest obstacles and is still pushing through and I will call THAT confidence.
Who has everything together all the time? Let us not lie to ourselves and others by portraying this image of perfection and false confidence. True confidence shows through when you are going through hell, but you keep on going.
If confidence is wearing the best designer brands in order to feel good about yourself, I don’t care too much for it. While I do enjoy the finer things in life, I know that they can be quickly fleeting and of small substance.
Rather, I know who I am and what I stand for whether I have nice things or am perceived as cool by others or not. To me, that is confidence. And I can carry it with me wherever I go.